How you present yourself can say a lot about you without you saying anything. Call it judging or being misinformed, or even ignorant, but it seems to be the way of the world.
How you speak about yourself says even more. When’s the last time you thought about how you see yourself?
For many years, my instinct was to introduce myself as a blogger – more specifically a weight loss blogger. While there were many layers of anxiety about that, most of it being I was 100+ pounds overweight, I wanted people to know that I knew I had a weight issue. (We can call that a defense mechanism.)
A couple years ago, a friend said, “Rewrite your bio.” It was a throwaway conversation in the middle of a phone call, but it stuck with me.
Just the thought about writing about myself was hard. Actually, it was scary. I put it off for months. I sent Stepfanie an email about it because I didn’t know where to start. (Or we can say I was putting it off because it was making me OMG WTF AM I DOING, aka soooo anxious.)
Every once in a while I’d brainstorm about how I wanted to present myself. Once I started to realize that leaving out anything to do with weight – as a positive or negative – was a major help for my brain.
Redefining who I was/was becoming/am on paper made me realize I am so much more than that.
You don’t have to change your personality. Change your thought process. You can redefine how you see yourself.
And if you don’t already, over time you’ll start believing it.